• j4k3@lemmy.world
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    4 days ago

    Whatever gives ya the confidence, go for it.

    They used to say humans establish DTF in the first 10 seconds of introductions. That fits with all my long term relationships. I’m probably just a slut, but I’d follow most instructions from anyone daring enough to give them.

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      3 days ago

      This is the way, but I’m demi so in my case it’s DT have a long heartfelt conversation, make plans together, form mutual respect, and then fuck.

      I’ll admit it’s does sound like more work when I spell it all out.

      • RIPandTERROR@sh.itjust.works
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        3 days ago

        I’ve found I have little self control and have ended up fucking a bunch of friends post hormone transition. Glad my partner loves it cuz apparently I’m one of the worst out there.

        Only a matter of time until I work up the nerve for content creation.

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            3 days ago

            I’m pretty involved in my personal community and when people found out I was on the market AND leaving… There were a surprising amount of applications. 😅🫣

            I’m really not used to it. I forget how I look and it catches me off guard every time I walk by a reflection. Not trying to be vein it’s just my internal self image doesn’t match again, but in a good way? Idk.

            • TotallynotJessica@lemmy.blahaj.zoneOPM
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              3 days ago

              That’s awesome. I’m not super gorgeous, but I often do a double take when catching a glimpse of my reflection too. My internal image isn’t as cute as the person I see (≧ω≦)