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even though inferior men seem to have no problem doing so
there’s his problem. thinking of others as inferior (and of yourself as “superior”) is egocentric.
OOP should tell those women he is superior and explain them why.
The hardest thing to change for 4channers is losing the right wing, authoritarian, hierarchy stuff. Just treat others like asexual, innocent, nice people and they will treat you the same. The problem with 4 chan and most online forums is that the hormone levels behind the keyboard are through the roof and they just want sex. They don’t care about actually fixing or changing themselves - they want to do the minimum required to get laid.
I get it. I was young once, and my lizard brain did all the driving. I didn’t pull my head out of my ass until 27, and the pop could be heard around the globe. That actually coincides with the last cognitive development stage, which happens around 26-27. Life before then seems so unbelievably cringeworthy.
The thing, though is that men in general do not bond or mentor each other, generally, or at the very least, we don’t surround ourselves with people who we can learn from, because funni.
Men need to work on helping each other grow. Memes are great. Booze is fun. However, there should be something deeper than context based friendships, and that all starts with being comfortable talking and being somewhat vulnerable with each other, and honest with ourselves about what we are feeling internally.
I would argue that “men don’t bond” if they were raised on the alpha male bullshit you escaped from on the internet. I met my best friend in high school, we went to college together, and then he moved across the country over 10 years ago. We’re both in our early thirties now. But we chat still nearly every weekend, talk about life, boost each other’s spirits, chat politics, hopes, dreams, regrets, give each other advice based on our individual experiences. We never were part of the “kick each other in the balls = friendship” crowd, and while it’s certainly there, I think that saying generally men all feel that way is a bit disingenuous
the last cognitive development stage, which happens around 26-27.
Wait, what? I don’t think I got the memo on that one. This isn’t some “manosphere” thing, is it?
Nah, that’s a real thing. Usually your finishes its final maturing phase around 25-30. Ofcourse your brain is still developing (and deteriorating) for the rest of your life, but at that point it’s much slower.
Hey so what is this cognitive development that I may have missed out on? I tried googling but nothing comes up. Can you point me to some reading about this? Or some term to search for? Thanks.
Here’s some review of recent research on the topic: https://pmc.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/articles/PMC6970937/
It is a period of brain maturation, learning about intimacy and mutual support, intensification of pre-existing friendships, family-oriented socialization, and the attainment of those social skills that are needed for mating and reproduction.
Awesome, thanks!
Trust me when I say I would be the last person to spout shit like that
Sorry fam I didn’t mean it that way, I’ve just learned to be suspicious.
All these incels forget they’re still just assholes from 4chan apart from all the other stuff.
Yeah the guy could work in not viewing success in a vagina access based way. That would help hus personality for sure.
When in that state, it’s immensely difficult to understand what exactly is going wrong, let alone fix it. I still remember being an awkward idiot kid confused about my isolation, flailing at shadows and endlessly making a nuisance of myself by reveling in the discomfort my presence bred. Misery one way glass. Hope anon finds someone to pass him notes.
ikr!, I’m still on this never-ending journey of self-improvement but I still cannot for the life of me not cringe out from my past self. I have a friend who is dealing with stuff I dealt with, probably worse, and I cannot convince him to change. He literally cannot fanthom that the way he is his problem, which he needs to address instead of blaming everything wrong with his life on others. How do we even help these people?
It’s a bit like AA. Until they recognize the problem and desire to fix it, it’s fruitless for anyone outside to attempt to fix it. Therapy and gentle course corrections are about it.
