Go to a bike shop that has a device or some way of measuring your sit bones (ie. the distance between them.) They’re the two hard bits that should be contacting your saddle when you ride. The shop I went to had this bench with a gel layer so you could see where your sit bones were pressing down.
I used to think all saddles were uncomfortable until I realized I have a relatively wide distance between my sit bones. I bought a proper saddle for my ass and now I’m comfy all the time.
You do not need to leave your room. Remain sitting at your table and listen. Do not even listen, simply wait. Do not even wait, be quiet still and solitary. The world will freely offer itself to you to be unmasked, it has no choice, it will roll in ecstasy at your feet. – Franz Kafka