An HOA (home owners associations) can say what color you can paint your house, What you can plant in your yard, What you can have in your driveway, and some even say what color your blinds can be.
Microsoft controls your computer, they say what info is sent back to Microsoft, and they say when you must upgrade. They can shut down your computer when they want whether you like it or not.
This is true of any OS, The people who build the OS for you to use can build in all kinds of sneaky stuff - see “Trusting Trust” about an invisible trojan in the C compiler. An issue with Microsoft Vs. Most Any Linux is the whether the maintainer’s goals and the User’s goals are oriented in the same direction. Microsoft wants to get data about you for whatever purpose whereas Most Any Linux maintainer’s main goal is to produce an OS that is as free of bugs and is as useful and as secure as possible.