Man, that’s super useful information, directly so, and it explains a lot of issues I’ve had communicating with the autism support group that uses the same space as my chronic pain support group.
Now, I’d never thought they didn’t have empathy, because plenty of them expressed it verbally, once something was verbally communicated to them. But it could be difficult to discuss things when emotions were high, and that’s pretty common when timing means they’re coming in as we’re going out, and we’ve got members visibly upset, but only to people that can read emotion visually.
Makes so much sense out of things.
Legit, even if this information only helps this one situation to bridge the gap between a single neurotypical/neurodivergent interaction case, that’s amazing.
Most of my human interaction is in a complete state of confusion on how the other person is emotionally feeling. At some point I decided I’m a good enough soul I can just let my ADHD/tism flow. But man some typicals don’t understand when you tell them. “Sorry I am divergent so I miss things.” No I don’t remember the first three things you said during your complaint at me. I was trying to figure out why your face looked angry when I haven’t interacted with you and it’s directed at me. Seems too illogical for me so I’m stunned rather than able to focus. And now you are annoyed cause I just seem aloof and your very direct complaint was ignored. Lmao. Communication is a mess sometimes and it sucks when you aren’t even aware of why and the other party is.
I wish I could say I “got it” immediately and never got grumpy with people, but I’d be lying.
But I’ve noticed that what you said about trusting your goodness and letting it flow is fairly common. It’s pretty rare to run into someone that’s divergent that’s being mean or has ill intent by default. The more open folks are, the more direct, I find that they’re also more likely to be good as their intent. Which I think is pretty damn cool
Man, that’s super useful information, directly so, and it explains a lot of issues I’ve had communicating with the autism support group that uses the same space as my chronic pain support group.
Now, I’d never thought they didn’t have empathy, because plenty of them expressed it verbally, once something was verbally communicated to them. But it could be difficult to discuss things when emotions were high, and that’s pretty common when timing means they’re coming in as we’re going out, and we’ve got members visibly upset, but only to people that can read emotion visually.
Makes so much sense out of things.
Legit, even if this information only helps this one situation to bridge the gap between a single neurotypical/neurodivergent interaction case, that’s amazing.
Most of my human interaction is in a complete state of confusion on how the other person is emotionally feeling. At some point I decided I’m a good enough soul I can just let my ADHD/tism flow. But man some typicals don’t understand when you tell them. “Sorry I am divergent so I miss things.” No I don’t remember the first three things you said during your complaint at me. I was trying to figure out why your face looked angry when I haven’t interacted with you and it’s directed at me. Seems too illogical for me so I’m stunned rather than able to focus. And now you are annoyed cause I just seem aloof and your very direct complaint was ignored. Lmao. Communication is a mess sometimes and it sucks when you aren’t even aware of why and the other party is.
I wish I could say I “got it” immediately and never got grumpy with people, but I’d be lying.
But I’ve noticed that what you said about trusting your goodness and letting it flow is fairly common. It’s pretty rare to run into someone that’s divergent that’s being mean or has ill intent by default. The more open folks are, the more direct, I find that they’re also more likely to be good as their intent. Which I think is pretty damn cool