I’ve been struggling with sleep issues for over a decade now. My Doctor has prescribed me all sorts of medication, all of which has had many adverse side effects. What I do know that works, is Xanax. My wife was prescribed it for some stress issues and occasionally will give me one so I can finally sleep. Obviously asking my Doctor, “can I have Xanax” Will not go well. I’ve eluded to it in ways and the response has always been along the lines of “that’s habit forming, I’d rather you try this”. Of the many medications prescribed, none have worked. Resorting to the dark web is something I’d really rather not do. Fentanyl laced drugs took my sister and it’s a road I hope to not have to explore. Any suggestions?
Yeah it’s hard to help because you didn’t go into the nature of your sleep issues, but I had wicked bad insomnia for about 2 decades and sleep great now. CBD/weed helped immensely as well as getting a white noise machine.
Edit: also look up binaural beats and try delta waves. You’ll need a good set of over the ear headphones and you need to just lie in bed in the dark playing it. You can also try yoga nidra, which if you haven’t heard of it is not actually yoga. It’s a form of meditation that you do lying in bed that can help with falling asleep.
Thanks for the advice!
Proper meditation training, and I’m not talking about some quick-fix youtube video.
I’m talking about weeks or months of training, like you’d do at a gym for your body. Just sit down, and focus on not thinking. You’re going to fail a lot as your mind tries to wander, but keep practicing until you can do it for longer and longer. Do this before bed each night, and don’t stimulate yourself in any way (no electronics, no book, no talking, no eating) between the meditation and the sleeping.
Also, trying to have a routine for your bedtime is excellent. Make it into a ritual so your brain gets used to it. Meditate, Go get a glass of water, Put it on your bedside table in the same spot, then go pee, remove and put your clothes in the hamper, climb into bed, get into your preferred sleeping position, and then I usually continue the meditation and I’m out before I know it.
Do this process slowly, there’s no rush. Calm everything. It takes time to complete, but it’s still faster than laying awake for hours like I used to.
Sounds like hokey bullshit, but it works amazingly. It’s like counting sheep on steroids (to continue the gym metaphor)
Thanks for the advice!
Do not hop on the xan, your doctor knows what they are talking about.
Here is my best suggestion and it is serious. NO CAFFEINE after lunch. Period. No naps. Go to bed early every night at the same time. Wake up early to start your day. Drink lots of water every day.
Als, your bed is for sleeping (and sexy times). No phones, no tv, no distraction.
What, specifically, have they tried? Did you try trazodone? I don’t think Xanax is the solution you think it may be even though it worked for you.
Is the issue falling asleep or staying asleep? Do you have an idea of what prevents you from falling asleep? What do you think about when you’re in bed falling asleep? What is your natural sleep cycle timeline? In other words, when do you naturally get sleepy and if given no restrictions, when would you wake up? How is your sleep hygiene (really, not just what you tell people)?
Do not, I repeat, do not go in there asking for Xanax or you will be labeled a drug seeker permanently. A doctor is not going to give you Xanax for this, full stop. They’re going to ask all of the above questions and try other avenues first. If they suspect an anxiety disorder they will move up that avenue and you may need a benzo but you have to be under care for a while and basically prove you’re trustworthy.
I have massive sleep problems too but you don’t have enough information in your post to give any other advice other than the standard sleep hygiene stuff you’ve already been told.
Trazadone was pretty intolerable with all the dry mouth side effects, plus it didn’t really help sleep a ton. I have a lot of problems with stress and anxiety. From a stressful job, to an insane family and some horrific life shit that happened over the past years. It’s tough to get my mind to stop racing sometimes. I’ve depended too much on substances in the past to manage it, and I know that probably means something habit forming may backfire. Honestly I’m always tired, but at times I’ll just lay there, tossing back and forth. Without restrictions, I can normally sleep from about 10PM-6AM, that seems to be the pattern for this point in my life. I’ve recently tried to start going for a hike at sunrise and that did help. Going to get back to doing that soon.
I know it feels tangential to getting a good night’s sleep when you haven’t had one in a long time, but if you have access to therapy consider making an appointment. Any one of those would be worth time with a therapist, and mental wellness definitely affects your sleep quality. This isn’t to say it’s all in your head or your fault you can’t sleep or anything like that, just that your mental health is as important a contributor to your wellness as your physical health.
I’ll definitely consider it again. I’m not a people person and find it extremely hard to trust people. But I also don’t talk much and things just end up festering.
All therapists aren’t the same, if you don’t click with someone after a session or two that’s completely a valid reason to dump them and try a different one. I know it can be disheartening if you have to go through a few, especially when getting to the point that you’re in therapy to begin with is already so much work. But from personal experience I would say it’s definitely worth it.
Be sure to bring up that you have a hard time opening up and trusting people, it’s definitely relevant to why you’re there and it’s a pretty common problem to have when seeing a therapist. Any good therapist will be able to help you find strategies for ways to work around it, like writing things out ahead of time if that’s easier for you.
It sounds like you’ve had a hell of a rough time with it, I hope you get some good rest and healing soon.
Thanks for the advice, have a good weekend
This. Anxiety has a lot of solutions now but a medical doctor (as opposed to a psychiatrist) probably isn’t the place to get them. A simple combo of things can work minor miracles. Good luck!
Thanks
There are no effective long term sleep medications except possibly THC. They’re all habit forming and you will get a tolerance, which will make sleeping impossible when you stop taking them. Benzodiazepines are garbage drugs and you will get addicted taking them for sleep. I had a nasty habit for years and kicking it was one of the worst things I’ve had to do. Please do not get involved with benzos.
For THC I’ve switched over to edibles and they do help sometimes. Had to stop smoking it for various health reasons.
Did you try cbd then? One of my coworker swear by it. One or two drop under the the tongue and he goes to sleep like a baby.
Edit: nvm i just saw you were already on it. You might try to slow down on the thc and give cdb a bigger chance since too much thc might give you more anxiety.
Totally. I’m 100% a burn out and need to tone it down. I’ve battled with learning moderation when it comes to weed but I’ve had lots of bumps in the road. Trying to ween myself off smoking and go straight edibles. I should try the “under the tongue” concentrates though. Thanks
I don’t discount your experience but I want to point out that benzos can be a very useful tool for people, especially with panic disorder, and they’re not inherently a trash drug.
While some people may develop a problem, others are able to use them on an as-needed basis long term. I’m sorry you struggled but glad you were able to overcome it. It’s absolutely understandable why you would feel negatively towards benzos as a whole.
It’s possible to be both a useful and trash drug. Benzos are inherently dangerous in ways that lots of other drugs are not, it is very easy to fuck up your life with them.
Despite their effectiveness at treating anxiety I’d still call them bad drugs. I’ve seen more people get their lives fucked up than get better, as they’re frequently inappropriately prescribed for long term use to treat the symptom without addressing the cause. Benzos are also one of the few drugs that can kill you with withdrawal, and the withdrawal lasts significantly longer than opiates. They’re essential for treating acute anxiety, but I really think the manner in which they’re prescribed needs to be improved. I think it would be a good thing to move away from the benzodiazepine class altogether to a more specific drug that doesn’t just hammer GABA receptors so broadly.
Apologies for giving you a boring canned answer when you are sleep-deprived and looking for help. But I swear these things really helped me.
Number one: think about getting a sleep study done by an actual sleep doc (pulmonary doc or neurologist). This was life changing for me. Don’t go to a chiropractor or whoever the fuck and get a CPAP machine.
Also, and this is important: Have you looked into tips for “sleep hygiene”? None of them are a quick fix like Xanax, but they can be powerful when used together.
These include things like:
- going to bed and getting up at the same times every day. this means getting up at your normal time, even if it’s a weekend, even if you didn’t sleep well that night, just make yourself do it
- when sleeping…making sure the room is dark, cool, and quiet (ear plugs are a big help here). by cool, I mean 68-69F (about 20C).
- cutting way back on caffeine and/or eliminating it…and absolutely no caffeine after lunch (the older we get, the longer it takes to metabolize caffeine)
- not looking at any glowing screens (TV, phone, computer, tablet, etc) before bed time… for at least 15-30 minutes
- avoid eating / drinking a couple of hours before bed time
- using your bedroom only for sleeping and for sex
And when you have trouble sleeping, it’s a very good idea to get out of bed, go to a different room (one that is not too bright) and do something boring like read a text book for 15-20 minutes then go back to bed and try again.
When we stay in bed and aren’t sleeping, we’re training our brain that it’s OK to do that. You want to beat it into your subconscious brain that the bed / bedroom is for sleeping.
Caveat: doctors will only let you have a sleep study if they suspect sleep apnea. Other sleep studies that capture off-the-wall sleep disorders don’t seem accessible, at least in my local health system which is a Catholic-run local monopoly. Perhaps HCA, or Kaiser, or others may have a different philosophy.
I wasn’t aware of this. That is discouraging. I think there are like 30-something sleep disorders. Though apnea is extremely common. Some insurance plans will also push hard for an “at home” sleep study first, which is fine if you just need a CPAP machine. But it’s no bueno if you need someone to monitor you and hook you up to all those Star Trek devices like they did to me.
This is not universal. I have average US insurance in Colorado and my GP sent me for a sleep study after we tried just a few things for my insomnia.
And I should have included exercise. The best sleep I ever get is when I get in a really good amount of exercise during the day. I won’t lie to you, I’m pretty lazy about it myself. You don’t want to do this close to bedtime, either. Go for a really long walk / jog / whatever in early afternoon if you can squeeze that in somehow.
Seriously. Nothing puts you to sleep better than 10 hours of hiking.
Obviously that’s unattainable most days, but I struggle with insomnia all my life, and one of the things I look forward to most from backpacking trips is the restful call of sleep when I “actually” feel like I “need” it.
To add to the ‘canned answers’ here is one more:
As non medication, Magnesium has a muscle relaxation effect. With a big cup of water before going to sleep it could help falling asleep. (Tho make sure you are using the right kind of magnesium pill that actually gets absorbed into the body)Thank you! Today I learned. (I’m usually kind of skeptical about supplements but what I’ve been able to find supports what you’re saying here).
Magnesium threonate cured my insomnia, it’s fucking wild how well it works. I’d tried everything until I discovered it, from melatonin, to antihistamine sleeping pills, all the way to downing 350ml of whiskey every night just to force sleep.
Magnesium works better than every single thing I’ve tried (but you HAVE to let yourself fall asleep when you feel it starting to work.)
Thanks for the advice. There’s definitely some stuff here I can try. I have a stressful computer job so cutting back on caffeine makes sense along with several other tips you mentioned!
Also the exercise thing. I find that when stress from the computer job is likely to keep me awake, a fast walk before bedtime is enough to help smooth that out
Definitely need to exercise more so I’ll give this a shot, thanks
A few things to add to this great list:
Magnesium supplement before bed. They’re not all the same. Don’t just take a pill. Get one of the proper powdered ones magnesium citrate or threonate. I really like this one.
Also, pod casts and audiobooks. I use headphones and turn the volume down just far enough so I really need to concentrate to hear the words.
Thanks!
I hope you find something that works. Not getting sleep is the worst!
100%. It’s all I look forward to these days. I know that fact in itself is a huge problem though.
Sleep is a multifaceted problem. It can be dietary, it can be psychological.
If there is a mountain with a trailhead near you… And I mean like at least 3 miles out, so 6 miles round trip. And I mean at least 1500ft of vertical gain…
Have a day with no caffeine. Eat small snacks during the morning/day. Hike that mountain. No breaks allowed. Go as slow as you need to go in order to not stop. Go as fast as you can. Bring plenty of water.
After, eat a huge dinner. Lots of carbs. Like a spaghetti pizza or something insane on the carb front.
Take a CBN supplement about 2-3 hrs later.
Stop using your phone at this time. Read a book for an hour. Go to bed.
If you struggle after all of this, see a specialist. Because that’s fucked.
Like, even if you’re massively anxious, and your diet sucks… You’ll be out like a light. Unless there’s other issues.
In addition to good sleep hygiene and trying to get a sleep study as others have suggested, a white noise machine that you turn on only at bedtime is great as a “go to sleep” signal for your brain. It also should make you less likely to wake up from noise during the night.
I take gabapentin at night to help me sleep, and it works pretty well. It’s non addictive so I’m not worried about dependency. But it works well for me because of what’s stopping me from sleeping (nerve pain). Without pinpointing why you can’t sleep well it’s going to be hard to treat it.
Thanks for the advice, I have a Snooz white noise machine and love it.
I can second the white noise. I fall asleep to a mix of rain, wind and rolling thunder pretty much every night. It probably takes about half the time it used to now that I do it as a habit.
Maybe like try massive amounts of CBD and THC. Max 1:1 ratio but better 10-20:1.
But I assume you did because this is like very popular and mainstream first thing to do
So maybe then L-Theanine? And broccoli sprouts, hard to explain the sprouts but they make me so sleepy.
Though nothing makes me as sleepy as when my phone battery runs out. Literally knocks me out
Listening to a slightly boring audiobook has been the most consistently effective method I’ve found. Also, I had to give up caffeine.
Ahh man, giving up caffeine is going to be brutal
It’s easier if you cut back first so your body gets used to having less of it. I started by only having any before 12pm, then 10am, then I cut out energy drinks entirely, then I’d do part decaf coffee until I finally went full decaf. I definitely noticed some headaches and felt kind of shit occasionally but I don’t remember it being too terrible.
Never tried decaf but I’ll give it a go. Love me some black coffee.
but gaining sleep is quite worth it.
also consider a hot bath/spa.
its all about relaxing your thoughts and your muscles. stop trying to figure things out and let go.
im surprised i havent seen more mention of deep breathing. if you can relax all your muscles and then drop your breathing down to 8 seconds a breathe, you should drift off to sleep within a few minutes.
I’ve of taking some meditation classes or something. The stress has taken its toll on my health and I don’t know how much more my body can take.
you have to figure out if the stress source is worth it to you. maybe you can change your work situation or expectations. maybe its a combination of 10 things and you can control 3 of them.
I’m a freelance video editor for reality tv. It’s extremely stressful, especially now with the state of the industry. I’ve let my other skills (used to be a programmer and designer in the video game industry) decay far too much and frankly that industry isn’t faring too well either. There’s really no great answer for my occupation. I just really need to learn how to manage the stresses of life for another 10-15 years before I can retire. Just hoping I can make it to that goal.
maybe make a list of 20 places you’d rather work and reach out to them. and set some boundaries with your crazy family members.
I understand where you’re coming from but it’s not that simple. I’m freelance, it’s all gig based.
You don’t need to give it up completely, but definitely don’t have any after 3 pm.
Decaf soda is also good. A little harder to find but it won’t beat up your stomach like caffeinated soda.
I jumped off the soda train long ago. I just drink way too much coffee, it’s going to be tough to give that one up
Maybe go half-caff for awhile?
I’m going to try. I once ditched coffee entirely for tea, but it weaseled it’s way back in with it’s seductive deliciousness.
Have you tried CBN?
I’ve thrown that into my edible rotation but I should give it another go. Right now I have these 1:1:1 THC:CBD:CBN 10MG ones. Should I try straight CBN?
Sometimes too much THC can mess with my sleep. Maybe a CBD CBN combo?
I’ll give it a go. Weed has been my crutch for a long, long time. Unfortunately what used to seem like the solution to my problems has become the source of some. I at least need to stop smoking it.
Please invest in William J. Walsh’s book “Nutrient Power”, & consider the experiments in it.
I’ve replicated both his undermethylated-DNA disorder treatment and his pyrrol disorder treatment, each 4 times, various ways.
He mis-identifies/fails-to-explain each of those correctly, so just in case you’re ( or anybody who reads this is ) in one of those 2, here are the corrected versions.
Many are undermethylated-DNA without it being disorder level.
Undermethylated-DNA disorder { stridency, symbol-fixation, drivenness, “high voltage”, sharply formed face ( sharply protruding nose, e.g. ), STRESS, etc… }
All autistics are undermethylated-DNA ( I’m autistic ), a subset of “schizophrenia” is, a subset of depression is, etc…
Enteric-coated ( he doesn’t mention this part ) SAM-e, taken about 40mins before breakfast, with clear water ( no carbs, no sweeteners, artificial or otherwise ), & one can begin breakfast once the nausea hits.
It took me 3 months for it to change me, and then I discovered that living with ZERO stress meant.
I’d never imagined that, before.
However, it took away my academic-drive, and that … isn’t on.
I’ve also done it with Methionine supplementing, which took 4 months, and I wasn’t taking enough to reach the zero-stress mode.
Now I know that I can “take the edge off”, if I need to, with Methionine ( more gradual ) or enteric-coated SAM-e, enough to make life more bearable.
Pyrrol-disorder { the PTSD-RAGEs, amygdala-highjack is always pressing one, and continuously trying to prevent it is brutal. I’ve since read that autistics have a 2x sized amygdala, which means that our amygdala-to-cortex ratio is off by a factor of 2, which certainly is likely part of what’s going on. Pyrrol-disorder is far-too-low-zinc, far-too-much-copper. There is a different disorder which goes the other way, too-much-zinc, too-little-copper, which, iirc, is associated with “explosive disorder” or some personality-disorder named something like that }
the treatment for this is much-quicker, but brutal.
Take arachidonic-acid precursor ( evening primrose oil, I was taking between 0.5 & 1g / day )
take P5P form of one of the vitamin-B’s
take alternating zinc gluconate & zinc picolinate. Do NOT take zinc citrate ( hits too fast, chemistry-suddenly-changes, one becomes dangerous to oneself & ones around one, and one probably ought be locked in a padded room, if one indulges in that idiocy. 0.5h to 4h is the dangerous time, after taking uncoated zinc citrate )
When Walsh says that the dosage of zinc required to correct the wrong-distortion of chemistry that our bodies are maintaining, he isn’t kidding.
The Tolerable Upper Limit for zinc is 50mg.
I needed 200mg/day to get the razor-edge balance which removed pyrrol-disorder’s force from my life…
It was the 1st time in my life I’d ever been simply happy.
Nothing like that.
But having an alarm get me every 6h to take another zinc…
destroying my sleep…
you can see part of why I discontinued that one, too.
Fundamentally, I’m Vajrayana, old-testament style: ALL one’s basis must be developed-mental-force.
ALL healing ought be of mind.
Eternity doesn’t “take prisoners”, and if I want my Soul/CellOfGod/ChildOfGod/Continuum ripped out from the tarpit of its unconsciousness, then I’ve got to EARN it.
So, I’m on my own, forcing gradual change into this nervous-system, through right-living & meditations, etc.
Maybe I’ll succeed before I die.
I want the momentum in-place for the next someone who has to inhabit this series-of-lives, however.
Eternity keeps killing all who are trapped within it: if one wants out from Eternity, then dissolving-into-OceanOfAllAwakeSouls/Allgod is the only alternative I know-of.
Anyways, I hope you’ve got informational-leverage for you to be able to understand why the book “Nutrient Power” is important, & I hope you’ve got enough contextual-understanding to know how to make maximally-effective use of those 2 treatments IF either 1 of them should happen to be indicated, on the evidence that YOUR life is, and to do so competently.
The context of understanding where I’m coming-from is just so you understand the sort of mind who is trying to give you leverage for your life.
I’ve experienced years of psychiatric treatments, & ditched them all.
Lithium carbonate ( manic-depression ), Norpramin ( depression ), multiple major-tranquilizers for their “schizophrenia” category ( I trust Walsh’s replicable-experiments more than I trust the bullshit that psychiatry put on me…
It’s been known since the 1920’s that child-onset schizophrenics lose 1/10th of our brains when it hits us.
NONE of psychiatry admits that a child’s losing 1/10th of their brain-volume FACTUALLY IS brain-injury.
No, psychiatry insists that it is “incurable illness of their minds”, and the kids need stomping with major-tranquilizers, in order to make them stable in their condition.
Gaslighting.
Thompson is the name of a researcher who mapped which part of such children’s brains lost 20% of tissue-volume, which lost 15%, which regions lost 10%, which lost 5%.
To gaslight children whose brains have been literally-decimated, is part of why such children have a 10% suicide-rate.
Evil.
Honestly admit that epigenetically-enforced brain-injury IS brain-injury, & help the kids deal-with their damn hellish brain-decimation!!
That is far too much to ask, of psychiatry, obviously…
https://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pmc/articles/PMC2877521/
Figure 1 shows the tissue-destruction regions.
PubMed had at-least 1 paper which mentioned that brain-volume-loss had been known since the 1920’s.
( I didn’t bother looking for any more, seeing 1 )
Maybe you understand why having my life destroyed by medical-gaslighting might possibly have made me offended/angry at it…
Authority-based medicine which identifies as “evidence based” medicine, isn’t Evidence Based Medicine.
Those composite brain-scans, shown by Thompson, THAT is evidence based medicine.
Anyways.
I wish you well, & I hope you find your right-answer.
Oh, & do try absolutely blacking-out your sleeping-room,
not viewing any blue-white light in the 2h prev to bed,
using earplugs if necessary ( soft ones, and those foam ones can often be washed with one’s laundry, if one isn’t using any fabric-softener perfumed-wax gunk )
I’ve no idea if melatonin supplementation helps: never tried it.
Salut, Namaste, & Kaizen, eh?
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If the Xanax is helping that much, you might have to start considering that maybe your sleep issues are anxiety, or other mental health problem, related. Try to enlist the help of professionally trained psychologist. Sometimes lay therapists could help, but the pros can diagnose and team with psychiatrists to prescribe medication. However, depending on the severity of the issue, you might not even need meds. Cognitive behavioral therapy is usually extremely effective at dealing with anxiety, PTSD and related issues that can cause sleep deprivation. Mental health is complex and reaching for drugs out of desperation can go really really bad really fast, making thing worse in the long term despite a brief short term relief.
Yeah, this is definitely me. I’ve tried talking to someone before but it didn’t go well. Hard to find the right person.
I know it can be frustrating and particularly hard with insurance limitations and all of those obstacles. But finding the right person can mark an extraordinary difference.
I have a lot inside me that I’d like to get out, just concerned as I’m not a trusting person and I have a lot of dark shit to unload. I’ve spent the last two decades coping with drugs and my body is telling me this isn’t a plan anymore.
doc doesn’t want to perscribe you xanax because xanax will stop working and this fucks up many other things in the process
Ahh ok. That makes sense, while it works great, long term it doesn’t seem to be a solution.
It’s a really bad solution honestly. Benzo withdrawal can kill you and it’s extremely habit forming. Especially if you’re using it to treat insomnia, finding a way to stop taking it is gonna be tough.
No solution provided, just giving some caution and saying that using Xanax to sleep is roughly equivalent to getting drunk to sleep. Both affect your GABA receptors and both are habit forming and dangerous to withdrawal from.
