• Fecundpossum@lemmy.worldEnglish
    6·
    5 hours ago

    I’ve always been of the understanding that people who do the whole “no sex until “x” event or time span” thing seem to consider sex to be a transactional performance, as opposed to raw form of human connection. They expect commitment to come before that connection, and use their withholding as a form of manipulation. To which my reply was always “Next”

    • PlasticExistence@lemmy.worldEnglish
      4·
      3 hours ago

      Same. I like physical intimacy, and if they don’t, we’re not compatible.

      My wife and I slept together after our first date. We knew each other for only a couple of weeks prior to that. I would have been fine waiting another couple or so, but if she had been hesitant about sex after that, then I would have probably talked to her about our differences in sex drive - like adults should do. Mine is high, and I’m not going to be a good match for anyone who has a low sex drive.

    • Prehensile_cloaca @lemm.eeEnglish
      5·
      3 hours ago

      100%

      It also sets weird and potentially false expectations around sex as an event, which puts undue pressure on both parties, rather than something that simply happens as a natural course of a relationship evolving.