i do not believe these words should be abandoned!

my intent is to point out and critique society’s weaponization of words, not the words themselves.

also! this is a descriptive post, not perscriptive

what that means is just that i want ppl to be aware that this pattern has happened in the past and of course the forces behind those happenings haven’t just disappeared. i think pride in being ND and the fact that “neurodiverse” is a word that is created by its own community are powerful reasons to doubt that the word will have the same fate. perhaps i would call this a “call to awareness” post rather than a call to action.

(making this disclaimer because a couple people are violently adamant that i am just trying to make an argument saying all these words are the same and predicting the future, which, sorry you got that impression it’s not true. but now you know!)

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    OP, at a certain point there has to be a word to describe what is happening. Just because someone uses it in a derogatory manner doesn’t mean that you have to abandon the word or that every usage of it is derogatory.

    See: gay

    Alternatively, make a third meme about it on a niche Internet forum.

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      We understand that. Tell society that. We’re not exactly the march in the street crowd so when we get yelled at we go back to the corner and think of a new name.

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        Maybe don’t go back in the corner? You need to learn to stand up for yourself otherwise you’ll just be bullied for the rest of your life.

        Not just you, anyone with this attitude.

        Oh boo fucking hoo they’re mean to you? Be even meaner.

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            And let people walk all over you and then complain about being the victim. Mean people don’t deserve kindness, they deserve the same energy they’re giving out.

            Taking the high road doesn’t work.

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              It’s not kindness, it’s nothing. They don’t need to be in my life. I don’t need to be in their establishment. My mean quota for my life is already full.

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      Just because someone uses it in a derogatory manner doesn’t mean that you have to abandon the word or that every usage of it is derogatory.

      I never said that anyone should abandon the word?!? In fact, I would far prefer reclaiming of slurs that reempowers the disabled community with their own language. But you didn’t know that because instead of asking you jumped to an entirely different topic.

      This is you right now.

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    If I’m not mistaken, all those other terms were imposed on people not really self described.

    I think neurodivergent will survive because people can proud to be neurodivergent. It’s closer to an identity than a prescriptive label.

    I for one am proud to be neurodivergent.

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      I think neurodivergent will survive because people can proud to be neurodivergent.

      💪💪i share your hope. having pride in your identity is a powerful thing. ❤️

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    More than half of those are outdated jargon words from when standard procedure to “cure” ND people (and other undesirables) was lobotomies. They were not claimed.

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    “Neurodivergent” is a bit different though. The r-word says something normative about people’s mental development. It’s saying that the person has been prevented from being normal; that something is wrong with them. “Special needs” indicates that someone requires different resources than what is typical. Much like IQ when it was developed, it’s a way to sort people’s needs on an economic basis, which isn’t poorly intentioned. However, it still labels people by how we need certain things within our socioeconomic system.

    Disorder classification systems like the DSM or ICD seek to normalize people, making sure we “function” in society. It measures us by a set of standards to ensure that we can live independently with our environment. It is very much defined by how society is structured; the environment of industrial capitalism. It doesn’t matter how fulfilling your life is, only that you are a functional cog.

    “Neurodivergence” seeks to avoid the pathology based approach. It says nothing about us having disorders. It instead focuses on us as different and divergent from the norm, but not inherently ill because of who we are. It’s invariant to economic systems or cultural norms, only saying that we are different.

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      Absolutely. All of the terms in the post are a bit different from one another. All came from varying origins and backgrounds and have different histories of how they came to be in my post.

      What they share is a pattern of similarities. They all are originally polite descriptive words that became demeaning.

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        The first four terms became associated with disabilities through the medical field. The first two terms were categories on the IQ-Scale (idiot is the one that comes before imbecile in that scale, btb). The third is a shortening of a medical term conflated with another (spasticity and clonus) and the fourth is another psychological term referring to similar things as the first two.

        Those were originally meant to be clinical but have been abused by those people, they also were created from outside the community (special needs most likely too, as it is a euphemism). I am unsure about “Acoustic”, that might be embracing of a meme, unless it was used as a euphemism for autism by non-autistic people.

        Neurodivergent is different, this is a term coined by a part of the community. I am not sure whether the term endonym is accurate here but it is similar in nature.

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          Absolutely, no lie detected.

          My concern is that I am seeing even neurodivergent beginning to being used against the community that created it. Following the same old patterns. My hope is that by calling it out, that damage and appropriation can be mitigated.

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    Idk. I can’t agree to the game being played here bc all they have to do is say it with that sneering condescension and then it’s a slur.

    I’m gonna take a page from gay people, because I am a gay person. Remember before it was a slur attempt it meant HAPPY and we fucking TOOK it from them. We took a word thateant something GOOD and they can’t ever have it back. Fuck them.

    So fuck em again. I’m not divergent. I’m … idk. People who can do what I can do are “NORMAL”, or “NATURAL”. Aww, you have problems learning about things you like and talking about them? You can’t write code or understand logic puzzles? Why can’t you keep up huh?? Why can’t you memorise things or babble for an hour on command, what’s wrong with you? Well not everyone can be NORMAL. 🤟🖕

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      hell yeah. fuck that grim reaper and his game. fully support reclamation.

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      The r-slur is targeted at intellectually disabled people. It’s not something for you to reclaim. When people call non-intellectually disabled autistic people that, the insult is that they’re comparing them to intellectually disabed people.

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        And why is it an insult? Because nobody wants to be seen as intellectually disabled. No matter what new words we make up, mean people will always use them to make other people feel bad. It’s not the words, it’s the ideas behind them.

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          You’re on the right track, but there’s more to it. It’s not just that people “don’t want” to be disabled—though that’s true for many. The deeper issue is how society devalues disabled lives, shaped by capitalism and white supremacist systems that teach us disabled people are less worthy, less productive, and less human.

          Consider the insult “you are a woman” a few decades ago. Sure, it worked because the man didn’t want to be a woman, aligning with your point. But it was also powerful because women were treated as inferior, denied rights, and subjected to violence. The insult carried misogyny—it didn’t just say “you’re not a man,” it implied “you’re part of a group society actively devalues and mistreats.”

          The same applies to ableist insults. It’s not just about not wanting to be disabled; the insult works because it taps into the belief that disabled people are lesser. That’s the real harm—society’s systemic dehumanization of disability, which gives these insults their weight.

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      Why “regarded”? I don’t get it tbh. To me it just says that you want to call someone “retarded” but you’re just too much of a coward to commit. Like, it communicates the exact same contempt for someone’s cognitive abilities but also an aversion to using a proper No-No Word™ because you don’t wanna transgress some sorta social taboo against them while doing so. Cuck behaviour, ngl chief.

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        Or, it might be because some communities silence those who use certain words, regardless of context, and this person is trying to avoid that…

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          Yes, and I still think that shitlordy behaviour of “teehee I didn’t technically break the rules-as-written despite it being blatantly obvious to everyone around that my intent was to do exactly that because I’m scared of getting a comment removed on the internet” is a pathetic display of weakness.

          Idk, I find all three alternatives preferable: either say the slur we all know you mean and just cop the consequences, be more creative with your insult game, or idk, maybe just don’t use cognitive impairments as a punching bag???

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            honestly i support more shaming of this kind of behavior. i can even identify areas where this would have been more rhetorically effective in my own experiences.

            instead of getting defensive: “what do you mean by that?” “no no i don’t understand please explain what ‘acoustic’ means?” “what is restarted?”

            unserious ableists deserve unserious conversations

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      i’m not against you reclaiming slurs!, if that language is accepted in your communities and you aren’t using it to do value judgments or insult, this is totally slay and acceptable 🙂

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        Of course I wouldnt say it if it made a neurodivergant person uncomfortable. Also I say it in a ironic sence to describe how people often treat me and other Autistic people as disabled.

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          based! and pretty much what i was assuming given the rest of your comment. :) i just had to put all those qualifications there because otherwise some other user would come in screaming “hypocrisy” 😆 cheers!

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      I can see the argument how there could have been an attempt to reclaim it, much like the n-slur, f-slur, or queer. Not sure if there was actually an attempt or not to reclaim, just to be clear.

      • The difference is that Something like Retarded is used by someone else, someone who isn’t like that person. It was a clinical term used by clinical people who would never know and could never know the feeling. That is to say it wasn’t great to begin with. People who were “retarded” weren’t embracing that for what they were, it was imposed upon them by medical professionals who don’t really understand them as people (many were studying them like specimens). It was primed for derogatory use.

        Neurodivergent on the other hand is a term embraced by the community, it’s used as a self-identifier. It doesn’t have the same oppressive connotations the others did. To turn it into a slur would be like turning transgender into a slur. It won’t work because the group identifies as that, and will keep using it.

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          Same could be argued with n-slur and f-slur. Those were not terms chosen by those groups. Both were created by the socio-economic dominating class in an attempt to dehumanize. That’s the whole point of the word “reclaiming” that I used. Takes the power back. There’s a user above (kitten for the sake of reference) who is Autistic and uses the R-Slur. I’m autistic as well but I don’t use it. For kitten, I’m sure there is power in taking the word away from people to apply to themselves.

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      okay lets FUCKING go i dont know why your comment took so long to show up for me but this rocks! 🔥

      i love music that does this reclaiming. very cool and and a pretty effective middle finger to the would-be treadmillers. here’s another one that i love: https://m.youtube.com/watch?v=cdNn_duX4bE