There is a term for this, but I can’t remember what it is.
It’s a phenomenon where a person goes through their formative years in a given structure, where you are raised by your parents, go to school, and are given set goals for every year - do X and you’ll get to Y. This goes all the way up to your early twenties if you go to university, possibly longer if you join a structured company with similar guardrails, or much longer when you join the armed forces and live in a regimented way.
Once people leave these guardrails, some really struggle with the freedom they are granted. No one has a goal to point you towards, no one cares if you fail, and ultimately your life has a degree of freedom you haven’t experienced ever.
One thing we’re terrible at as a society is either guiding people with no clear path, or supporting those that don’t want a clear path and want to find one of their own. Some people really struggle with this, and the freedom of being able to do shit like overindulge on drugs/alcohol/food with no support or community support can ruin lives.
That’s why religion unfortunately continues to exist. They are the imaginary guardrails, but towards an imaginary goal that is often taken advantage of.
In my opinion this is a bit of a narrow view. It definitely holds true for many Christians. But I think some religions like Buddhism may actually help you find a way without guard rails.
It certainly did for Hitler!
The problem with the guardrails that actually do work is that they often encompass entire fields of active and progressive study that is constantly evolving, and most people/families/societies ain’t have the time or experience to keep up with that. Living without guardrails is simple, it’s called evolution.
Very reddit of you. Religion bad, upvotes please.
They didn’t say it was bad, just that it exists to provide guardrails, but is often exploited by corrupt people. Which is a historically accurate statement
Too close to home, huh? It’s bad enough to be fueling most major world conflicts today, yes. Since you seem to be desperately obsessed with them, have an upvote.
😂 that you couldn’t identify the obvious irony kind of makes my point about your shallow observation. Saying religion is an imaginary guardrail discounts all spirituality as well. That you think anyone would care about upvotes on the fediverse is wild
Here you go, bud, have another upvote, totes all spirituality and shit.
Yeah right? Zero respect for satanism/demonolatry
A few years ago I worked as a telecoms engineer. The role itself was pretty free-roaming and a large part of your working day was unsupervised and allowed you to make your own decisions and your day to day achievements were pretty much all down to you and/or the guys you were working with.
Anyway, the company had a spell where they hired a lot of ex armed forces personnel into various engineering roles, many of whom had done long stints in the military. Pretty much every veteran I worked with was smart, hard working, organised and a joy to work with. With one caveat, most of them needed an ‘order’ to do a particular thing, or pushing into thinking for themselves. They had spent their entire working life in a structured, order based environment, that left them unprepared when they were given the freedom to think for themselves.
I can totally get how homelessness and addiction problems can beset people when the structure they have spent their whole lives within, is suddenly not there any longer.
That’s so interesting. Objectively, it’s neither good nor bad. The indifferentness of the universe to our coping with freedom is wild and interesting, a rollercoaster on its own
A lot of things are worth doing for the sake of challenging yourself, but then battling your own mind about if something is a wasted effort or not is the real war.
As a general rule, anything you have to repeatedly do you should master.
Or figure out how to do it less.
I think this is the cause of a lot of veteran houselessness and suicide unfortunately.
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Uh, that pop-up is “unpleasant feelings”. Pain, discomfort, bad taste/smell, etc. If you went outside and started eating dirt, your brain would pop-up with “Hey, this tastes yucky, you should stop”
The really dangerous thing is when something feels rewarding in the short term, but wrecks your life in the long term.
Why can’t broccoli feel more rewarding
Are you kidding? I can always want to eat more broccoli than is advisable. I have to like hold myself back.
For real though, you can “acquire” these tastes.
Cover it in olive oil and salt. bake at 400 for 20 minutes, and trick your brain into thinking its amazing
🤤
My brain is so gullible sometimes, i also tricked it into a biking hobby by going fast.
So the sense of speed is the fun part?
I kinda tricked myself into liking running by making a game of how long I could put up with the discomfort and feeling out of breath. Now I no longer feel out of breath, and it sometimes feels actually… good?? I don’t know if I just became inured to the sensation, or if I’m just fitter.
Is it a trick if it’s really amazing?
For any non-yanks reading: 400 degrees Fahrenheit is about 200 degrees Celsius, and this method is roasting, not baking.
Fuck that. Throw some Velvetta on it and call it in.
How about a little sesame oil and soy sauce?
Daamn why weren’t you my roomate in college - I got the Dominos-pizza-every-night kind of roomates
Our sauteed with onions really good too. People who don’t like greens probably only know them boiled in water which washes the taste away.
Broccoli kicks ass
I’m looking at you, EtOH!
What’s EtOH?
Ethanol, the main active ingredient in booze.
There are no guardrails in life
Except for, of course, any actual guardrails you encounter.
My 16 year old: “I can’t wait until I can do whatever I want!”
Me: “I thought the same thing. Turns out it’s not as fun as it sounds.”
I respectfully disagree. I realize that everyone’s experiences are different but I greatly prefer being an adult to being a child.
Being an adult got awesome once I developed basic self control
Nah. Unless you have a severe condition like psychopathy or some other neuro divergent state, your brain is pretty consistent with giving you warnings. These take the form of “bad feelings” and second guessing. Most of us just choose to ignore them and then begin the mental gymnastics, altering the chemical pathways to justify and continue the behavior.
Does not necessarily apply to financial decisions because this is an artificial system with no basis in reality, brain is not wired to assess properly. Also why it’s easy to con people so easily. No natural defenses.
The pop up is called natural selection. Any of your distant ancestors who clicked “Yes” to eating dirt did not survive.
Sadly, we have been so good at protecting people from stupid, we need the popups again.
Never know if the dirt eaters won or not. They might’ve been up against shit eaters.
Ah, the two party system, dirt eaters vs shit eaters. But more parties does not equal no dirt and shit, sometimes it just becomes dirt, shit, manure, fecal matter and plain old sand.
Is it that sad, or is it actually great!
Some people have ancestors who are dirt. It’s called geophagy
Eating dirt might even work out but eating stones doesn’t.
Lol that’s awesome someone actually made that into a patch
Man me as a 14 year old on original Xbox straight up feeling like I destroyed the world
Everyone remembers where they were the first time they severed the thread of prophecy.
Damn that’s a good point.
I guess that was a right of passage for the time
It really is a great way to tell the player they want to reload. Unfortunately they decided that always being able to win was “better”.
I think about this now and again, because the canals where I live often don’t have fencing alongside to stop you falling in. A piece of the brutality of the universe in the city.
And damn few safety nets.
Nothing is true.
Everything is permitted.
Picks up bleach.
What the fuck does that mean clippy?
Yes. I’m 40 and leaving ~800k if I die at work. Tell my blood brother and other brothers I love them. Insist they spend 20k on drugs at my funeral. Buy lots of cheap and/or electric motorcycles.
Thanks Mr Clippy
I mean… I enjoyed and upvoted but this is false. We have millennia of prewiring and Darwinism under the belt
Thats what religion is supposed to do. If only it would stop at that…
Did this person not have a mama?
Breaking news: not all parents are good at parenting.
Footnote to news: An astonishing high number of parents should not have become parents
:(
That’s what parents are for.
As a parent: no, I’m just there to be a shoulder to cry on when you do something stupid. Everyone knows kids don’t listen to parents…